The Argument System
							
Say something important from another room.  Your partner will not hear you correctly, and will react to what you were discussing previously.  Get angry at their reaction. Allow your anger to be intensified by their confusion.  Your partner will become increasingly frustrated about your overreaction.  At this point a relational disconnect has been accomplished.  To create a permanent schism, take this opportunity to confess a grievance you have been withholding for some time.  This will create the impression that you have been consistently unhappy in the relationship and will make your partner feel inadequate. Feelings of resentment and inadequacy are crucial to successful arguments. Win the argument by saying that you are willing to compromise more than you are actually willing to. The dissatisfaction of this compromise will be essential to fueling the next argument. Repeat as necessary.
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